Dealing with death in family

[MudBug]

Yesterday my 2nd cousin was mistaken for a moose and shot down while hunting. He was only 27. We were really close and we used to hunt together and play darts. We live in a small community (500) and everyone is just rattled over this. Im having a tough time as well. What do you guys do when dealing with something like this?

[skypilot]

Hey, bro, sorry to hear about your loss, especially during the holiday season. Prayer still works, we don't have all the answers, but God still see's and cares!

[hang&rattle]

I feel for ya, my dad just died las' Saturday, and my Grampa a couple months ago, hard to know how to deal with it, so hey bud, chin up. What we selfishly don't realize because we miss them here, is they are really, really happy where they are at now. We should be jealous they are were we will be before us, lol.

[buster-717]

im very sad to hear but i agree with skypilot and it takes time and love, be there for other family members and friends they need you like you need them. i've been there to many times, you also have 3ww family that cares about you to.hang in there bud.

[skypilot]

Family is important, especially at times like this. Be there for your remaining family, out of this tragedy can come a greater sense of unity among them. A loss of a loved one is always tough, and the grieving process in natural, so give yourself plenty of time, and work through it one day at a time. The 3ww family stands behind you.

[Thorpe]

it takes time and love, be there for other family members and friends...

And a stiff drink... Sorry to hear about your loss MudBug...

[code200k]

damn man that sucks.hang in there bud.Crazy thing is two of my former teachers just died today R.I.P

[coolpool]

Sorry for your loss MudBug. Mistaken for a moose?????? I feel sorry for the person responsible. Think of all the good times and be there for the rest of the family.

Lost my Gramma Friday, it sucks.

[MudBug]

The man who shot him was taken in the ambulance as well, he was in shock. He's still in the hospital today

[rdlsz24]

Man I am really sorry to hear that. Your cousin was only a year younger than me. Such a tragedy

Rob

[thestud25]

Sky Pilot said it best. Pray. If you are not a religous man, then rely on your family and friends. You need to be strong and be there for them as well. Sometimes tragedy brings forth good things. My condolences to you, your family and all affected by this tradgedy.

~Jonathan

[Dirtcrasher]

The man that shot him will most likely be affected by this for his whole life. If the hunter was wearing Orange, someone got trigger happy.....

I am so very sorry about your loss. I have a few close friends and if they died or my parents, I'd be more of a mess than I am now.

Time heals all wounds but sometimes it takes a LONG time.......

[MudBug]

He was not wearing orange, just camoflauge. Our group of hunters never wear orange. We certainly will now...

http://i801.photobucket.com/albums/yy299/brandonploughman/Ivan.jpg

[jb2wheels]

In my family, we have a huge drunken wake and celebrate their life.
Last one was my 95 year old grandmother.
Before that was her younger brother a WW2 and Korea vet.
You always miss them, but lean on family and focus on the joy they brought to your life.

[Rockman]

Keep him in your daily memories and do things that you liked to do with him as a tribute. Know that you are loved by him, still to this day.

My mom passed away last November and at certain times, it will just hit me like a ton of bricks. But I can't go back and change things now.

I do things that my mom would have done if she was still here for my daughter, son and wife as well but do not come out and directly infer that. Funny though that when I do something like this, my wife oftentimes looks at me and says "Your mom used to do that."

Know that he has played an important role in your life and has helped you become the type of person your are today.

[MudBug]

just to add to this guys... one of my close friends who was in the military with me got killed in a car accident on April 10th... some are saying it was suicide but theres no way to know for sure. Now just a week or so ago, my VERY close friend rolled his quad when we were all with a group of friends. Nobody was watching at the time but he died instantly from internal brain crushing and a broken neck. he was only 15. This is by far the roughest time of my life and thats why I havent been messing around with the trikes too much lately. anyone going through things like this too?

[thestud25]

I have lost 3 friends over the last 12 months. It is never easy. Two were car wrecks one was suicide. You just have to keep moving along, help those that need it and celebrate what time you had with them. Keep your head up!

[atc007]

Well,man,,,You are just getting the SH&t SLUNG on you aren't you! I am SO sorry for your losses. My deepest condolences. In our family it always goes in threes. not superstition. Fact! When a person dies in our family,there will be 2 more close to us. Without fail. I was a HAPPY GO LUCKY dude when I was younger.When I was 19,My Grandma died after the DR.S used her as a guinea pig. She was 79,and my life experience has shown me that is a pretty darn good time to go! Preferrably in the 80's if you're good,,but MOST after that are headed downhill. There are ALWAYS exceptions to the rule. anyhow,Grandma went 2/10,my Aunt went ,2/16,then my closest Uncle,2 /22. 3 funerals,,,I was pall bearers at all.In 21 days. Back then it wasn't a 2 hour viewing followed by a funeral. It was viewing one night ,then funeral next day. I was just starting my shop and running the dairy farm. Made for some long hours. I truly thought I was fine! And fealt fine. My buddy walks in the house like,July? He points to a picture of me and says,,where did that guy go? Cuz I haven't seen him in a LONG time. He went with me when my Uncle fell off the chimney. He stayed w my brother for me,but was there and saw how bad it was. I said what?? He said man you haven't smiled since February.. I suppose I haven't been the same since?? I REALLY do not know? But heres the thing. My Dad came from a family of 16,my Mom 9. We have a LOT of family!! So we have a LOT of funerals. We're all here to die. Fact, Like it or not. Like Hang said,,they are in better places. DOn't believe it?? Watch a couple Episodes of Ghost Hunters,get to KNOW there incredible Integrity,then watch things unfold!! I DIDN"T believe! I sure do now. My sister has a haunted house. A little girl in a white dress. She drowned in the well. There is some sort of after life. I think MOST make it thru. I think the ghosts just need to be shown the way. This has gone long again! Sorry to hear you're kinda off the machines for now. I understand,,but THAT ,is where I go,I have an EXTREMELY stressfull life. I don't drink,I don't smoke,,etc.. Too strong to start. I R I D E ! MAYBE only 2 miles! But I get out in those woods and I ride,that helps me alot. You are in a bad place right now,,but things WILL get BETTER! They will. It may be hard to see,but you have to know they will. Love and support your family and friends ,,and THERE family and friends,,LIKE THERE IS NO tomorrow. And SEEK help and support for yourself if you feel the need. What else can we do?

[MudBug]

great post 007. I really dont feel myself at all though, but nobody thinks im acting differently. Here is a pic of me and my buddy at my graduation about a week before his death...

http://i801.photobucket.com/albums/yy299/brandonploughman/zack.jpg

im on the left, he's on the right

[R-tifacts]

Sorry to hear about your loss, things will get better.

[atc007]

Keep your head up Mudbug,what branch are you in? Enrolled in school,we can down here also. Find something to look forward to tomorrow,and do it. Hopefully you can get back out there and ride soon!

[MudBug]

didnt quite understand your question 007! sorry

[atc007]

Ohhh! Enrolled into the military while still in school? What branch of the service are you in? And how are you doing??

[MudBug]

just completed BMQ (basic military qualification) and I graduated high school this year. I'm in the reserve force

[tri again]

I grew up in a state with a drinking age of 21
but it was only 1/2 hr or so to new york state line
(upstate) where the drinking age was 18.

By the time I got out of HS, we had lost 32 kids?
Small town, high school only had 400 students.

Laws of physics state that energy cannot be created or destroyed.

It simply changes forms.

We have a very friendly ghost in a local church that we turned into a restaurant.

We try to tell her it's ok to go towards the light but it seems like she's having a good time
messing with us.

I just personally can't imagine 'it' being over.

Too many cool stories.

We are ALL capable of intuition and psychic communications,
and these 'transitions' usually bring out the best of our evolved nature or
spiritual tendencies, if you will.

The most intense pain I can imagine, for sure.
but we are here to evolve.
and teach
and learn

so sorry, to be sure.
We lost a bmx bicycle kid here last year so I got on my bike and
'went for a ride' together.

It really helped.

Hang in there.

[atc007]

How ya doing Mudbug!? Whatcha been up too?? Get back on the horse yet??

[MudBug]

still doing the same, I have a tremor in my right hand ever since that day, it comes and goes every hour or so. Never bothered to get it checked out. Went to see his parents the other day, and his earn. Just seems so quick thats all. Still cant believe it