Dirtcrasher
12-16-2006, 08:04 PM
My boss has numerous brothers and sisters. I worked with his brother Mark for awhile and he listed to me *Edited**Edited**Edited**Edited**Edited* and whine when my fiance' and I broke up. I considered him a good friend. Then he quit and went back to doing his own thing - he has a pipefitters license, refrigeration license and a low voltage license. He always seems to get by and sometimes does very well. He has 5 kids, some young and some old. He also nearly died last year from lung cancer and the thought of losing him made me feel terrible.
I haden't seen him in a year but we spoke once a month, then he called me about 2 months ago and said he was in a jam. He needed a grand and was gonna get paid from a boiler install job the next week and he would pay me back. I didn't hesitate for a minute and wrote him a check. A month went by, no call - nothing. I called him and explained that I needed it back and he was already late by 3 weeks. He said sorry but he never got paid and he'd be by with something the next weekend. No call, no show again. It's been another 2 weeks and I called him tonite. The phone hung up. I called back and left a voice mail but haven't heard anything.
So I've learned once again the hard way that I should never lend anyone anything. It's at the point that even if I get a dime, I will no longer be his friend or lender. I may have learned a very expensive lesson. If he had merely called me once a week and explained that he intended to pay me back but just couldn't now, I would do my best to be patient. I feel like an ahole calling him and hate the situation I'm in, I feel bad for calling him but I cannot believe he is ignoring me.
WHAT WOULD YOU DO??????
I haden't seen him in a year but we spoke once a month, then he called me about 2 months ago and said he was in a jam. He needed a grand and was gonna get paid from a boiler install job the next week and he would pay me back. I didn't hesitate for a minute and wrote him a check. A month went by, no call - nothing. I called him and explained that I needed it back and he was already late by 3 weeks. He said sorry but he never got paid and he'd be by with something the next weekend. No call, no show again. It's been another 2 weeks and I called him tonite. The phone hung up. I called back and left a voice mail but haven't heard anything.
So I've learned once again the hard way that I should never lend anyone anything. It's at the point that even if I get a dime, I will no longer be his friend or lender. I may have learned a very expensive lesson. If he had merely called me once a week and explained that he intended to pay me back but just couldn't now, I would do my best to be patient. I feel like an ahole calling him and hate the situation I'm in, I feel bad for calling him but I cannot believe he is ignoring me.
WHAT WOULD YOU DO??????