nothing wrong with ether (starting fluid) as long as it says on can it has upper cylinder lubricant in it (cheap formulas do not). careful with heating the carb cause it can make your worst nightmare of a fire come true. whoever said pull spark plug and keep inside by the fire, seriously, that doesnt help when your trying to pull thick cold fuel through a tiny pinhole in a carb jet. as many are saying the 250 sx has an enricher valve instead of choke (throttle) blade type system in the smaller and older bikes. give honda a break it was their first try at it. no offense to anyone but trying to use a screw to make the hole bigger might not be the safest fix on a $100 carb if you break it. either give it a quick hit of starting fluid or use the drill bit method. it sucks but if no one knows the proper size find a friend with a bit set, see where its at now and incrementally go up from there till you find one that works.
QUICK TIP with cold starting 250 es and sx's. do not give it any throttle when you are cold starting. i know that worked great on everything else you have ridden but these carbs have a carb slide and throttle blade that work together. by leaving the throttle closed, the throttle blade acts as a choke blade when the rest of the carb is adjusted properly.
proof of theory: when you cold start these bikes many will die out if you try to rev it right after it fires up, you have to let it idle with choke on before it can be reved.