Sorry for a non fun topic - epidemic of broken hearts

[tri again]

Seems like a lot of people I run into are going through
a tough time. Seems like some are just having it rough counting blessings
and being happy, and / or their un happiness is always someone elses fault.

Many studies have been done on depression but few, if any, have addressed
the concept of happiness.

If it's trike troubles, we jump in and fix 'em, right?

Lots of great suggestions and solutions and the occasional,
"that's nothin', wait till you hear THIS".

If it's easy, any suggestions I can pass along that may help would be
greatly appreciated.

Thanks

[atc007]

We're all just wired so damn different ... There are extremely few who could/would deal with what I do on a daily basis.. Not going into it. But you nailed it right square in the bullseye. COUNTING BLESSINGS. Be thankful for ALL that you have. Forget your problems. Make the good better,and focus on that. Most are too damn selfish? I guess? to See all the GOOD around them. My family is absolutely riddled from stem to stern with permanent medical/ mental problems which are NEVER going to go away.. Ever...they will only get worse.. But When I see the Marine Corp vet wheel in with NO LEGS. I am thankful of our situation. When I see the van pull up to the hospital entrance and Dad get out and CARRY his invalid Daughter out into her wheelchair and hook up her O2 to stay alive. I am Damn THANKFUL of my situation. Yesterday at the hospital I saw a 17yo? boy, BOTH broken legs,and a broken neck,obviously in a chair. A wounded Marine vet, countless obese women with screws and rods hanging out of their legs. A little girl with no hair from Chemo treatments.. Made the rest of my bad day seem WAY easier to manage. People just take SO much for granted. It boggles my mind. Count your blessings.

[tri again]

Bless us all.
and thank you 007, for reliving a painful day.

Seems like some get stuck in a tape delay reverb loop
and nothing matters but their 'issues' that I'd gladly trade with them.
Very little will change the state of mind except time when enough new things
displace their current state of affairs.
I was even thinking than an addiction counsellor may be able to help
with non-chemically based fixations.
I've been in that state of mind before but I forget how I got out of it.
Most likely, adivce from friends that can't seem to listen (or hear) when I return the favor and repeat what THEY told ME.

I love 'focus on the good and make it better.'

Expecting a call any minute now so I really appreciate your insights.
Thanks again

[atc007]

I was a little upset today that I didn't get across what I was trying to convey. Mental health troubles are as real as missing an arm,and that ,in my mind,was far from what I thought you were talking about. So having said that lol.. Life is TOUGH. I don't care if you're begging on the streets or have Millions. Life is tough !! It seems to me that so many feel,,,entitled? Or just expect things not to be so hard? NOTHING is easy ! I don't have to tell most here that. Every weld, every bearing,a straight simple brake job ? Yeah right ! Nothing is easy. We need to fight,and fight hard, for all that we want. Even if somethings handed to you,it can't be appreciated. I dunno. I just got back from buying a Raptor 700R for a pretty fair price today. It was on CL. I called, we talked. This guy is 41 yo. Him and his buddies were drinking a "cpl " beers Friday night. Playing up and down the road on the Raptor and 400EX he had. His buddies hit a tree on the EX. Drivers dead. Gone forever. Passenger is fighting for his life in the ICU. I consoled him and told him it was not his fault. Fate may have taken him anyway. But this guy is just trashed. Beyond ,,like,, really in shock. We went in his garage to grab some rims and tires,and there sat 2 Redcat 50's sitting there. I said junk ,or awesome? Because they are usually one or the other. He sad they run like new. They are my buddies that Died Friday... So, I didn't ask anymore. But at least TWO kids now have No Daddy.. All over a swig of beer. I'm not judging,just stating facts. It has really bothered me. I payed him what he wanted and a little more,but he just wanted that quad out of his sight. Anyhoo.. I hope you can cheer your friend/friends up tri. You're a great guy and my Moneys on you :)

[tri again]

I hear you my friend.
Reminds me of the story of that kid that was sitting ON a
machine, stopped in a parking lot and someone decided to do donuts
in a truck and tagged him out.

I got 'yelled at' the other day because I looked both ways when the traffic light changed.
"IT'S GREEN".
well? just because a freakin' light bulb changes color, are we to assume that
1,2,3,4,5 30or 40 master cylinder seals will work and that everyone is paying attention?

Hey, I was able to use your comment the other day.
I went to the store and ran into a lady with m.s. and another guitar player that can't
handle his chemo and radiation.
We all know that the ugly stuff will be there.
Try not to think about it before we go to sleep and hope to god it ain't the first thing we think of when we wake up.

Find the smallest glimmer of hope and focus on it and 'make it better'.

They both smiled and agreed and that thought you planted has been bouncing around my
head almost everywhere I look...be it trees that are gonna cause trouble this winter,
a 90 that started but sputters, the 2 neighborhood kids that came over to 'help' me do anything and ripped into the firewood pile.
The one kid lost his brother who was a flying angel on a bmx bicycle. Came in 19th in nationals in St Louis..
His uncle sold him some light weight competition handlebar stuff which broke on landing.
He sat up, took his helmet off and passed out, lights out.

I'm thinking a shot of prednisone the size of a roll of nickles woulda stopped the spinal cord swelling which finished him off.

yupp, it's all there if we can manage to sidestep the negative.
..and like you said, even mental balance can paralyze.

I'm gonna go on a walk about and see if all the insurmountable
projects make me smile when I think about making the small
positive things better.

Take care and I hope all is running smoothly.
Thanks again

[atc007]

I wasn't even gonna be on here today but owed a friend some pics. I lost Mom yesterday. A 17 year battle, and she finally had to succumb yesterday. God she will be missed,but what a blessing to have her suffering over. Last night marked the first night I can remember without a baby monitor cackling in our ears to listen in on Mom and Dads breathing. Today will be the first day in over a decade I don't have any adult diapers to burn. I'm glad some of our suffering and all that we have seen can somehow Help someone. That warmed my Heart Tri. Thanx :)

[Dirtcrasher]

I wasn't even gonna be on here today but owed a friend some pics. I lost Mom yesterday. A 17 year battle, and she finally had to succumb yesterday. God she will be missed,but what a blessing to have her suffering over. Last night marked the first night I can remember without a baby monitor cackling in our ears to listen in on Mom and Dads breathing. Today will be the first day in over a decade I don't have any adult diapers to burn. I'm glad some of our suffering and all that we have seen can somehow Help someone. That warmed my Heart Tri. Thanx :)

So sorry to hear that Bill but I'm glad her pain is over. Take care my friend.......

[El Camexican]

I wasn't even gonna be on here today but owed a friend some pics. I lost Mom yesterday. A 17 year battle, and she finally had to succumb yesterday. God she will be missed,but what a blessing to have her suffering over. Last night marked the first night I can remember without a baby monitor cackling in our ears to listen in on Mom and Dads breathing. Today will be the first day in over a decade I don't have any adult diapers to burn. I'm glad some of our suffering and all that we have seen can somehow Help someone. That warmed my Heart Tri. Thanx :)

I really don't know what to say, I just hope you are managing as best as can be and that your memories of her are of better times. Take care.

[atc007]

Thanx DC and EL. We'll be alright :)

[tripledog]

So sorry for your loss atc007. I don't know how I will deal with losing my parents. Please accept my most sincere condolences. And to member tri again, I feel your pain. If you ever hear the song " This it where it ends" by the group Barenaked Ladies, it describes my life almost exactly. Just gotta keep going, and try to put yourself in a happier place somehow.

[tri again]

So sorry to hear, 007.
Sending positive thoughts your way.

Hopefully the good memories
will make everyon smile and laugh before too long.

Is there anything we can help with?

[atc007]

Thanx tri. We are good to go. I appreciate the Love very much.

[jeswinehart]

Yes, sorry to hear of your loss 007. I am in the room where my grandmother passed in 65 (mom moved her in around 64).
Same room where my mother passed in 98 after much persuasion to get her to move in with us.
Dad passed in his bedroom just off the front room I am working on in 75,,,
Hopefully I will get checked out somewhere in here (garage would be sweet) ,,,
You don't much hear about family taking care of family in long term care. It goes on but not enough said about it.

john

[atc007]

I could not agree more John. I am sitting next to the chair Mom passed in. I was holding her in my arms ,kissing her on the forehead telling her to go into the light. Dad passed here in one of our bedrooms Nov 19th last year. And God willing my Brother will here,and so on and so forth. My Moms sister is failing very badly and my Cousin and his Wife are caring for her. I told them Sunday at the funeral God bless them,and they will NEVER regret doing it. I should know. It meant the world to them to hear that from me after watching the last 15 years here.

[bkm]

Sorry for your loss Bill. Its never easy, but no longer seeing them suffer is one small bright spot.

[atc007]

Thank you Brian :)