Family members moving in with you?????

[russell56443]

Just a rant here,Im so P.O.ed with my living situation!!!
In May my GF's son moved in while going through a divorce and stuff(He's still here)!!!
He is the most negitive person you will ever meet and after living with him a real ASS****!!!!
Makes us feel bad that we dont get up early like he does(we have alot health problems and are both on disability and have trouble sleeping ect...)?
Criticize's everything we do(on the computer to much,dont go to bed at 8:30 pm like he does,what time we cook/eat,cleaning)on and on!
Wont follow our care guidelines with our animals,will let the dogs out and go take a shower in the morning or be abusive to them if there in his way ect..???
Doesnt help with the bill's at all and complains there isnt enough food/TV channels/entertainment ect.. and he had to spend $$ for his food for work(He has a full time job and makes more than we both do a month)??
I dont know what to think,are your relitives like this????
I couldnt live off someone and *Edited**Edited**Edited**Edited**Edited* about the living conditions no matter what they were if I wasnt doing something to pay for my keep???
The worst part is he thinks he's Superior/better than us???
It is so hard trying not to go off on him but it would cause problems in the long run so I hold my tounge!!
What would you guys do in my situation(besides shoot him lol)???
My GF thinks he's getting better but I think he's planning a takeover or something(threatend to put her in a home before we met)???
How would you get rid of an unwanted guest?????????????????

[weed]

well,i would get your ballz back first, reattatch them, and kick his sorry arse out!!!! period. the situation will not get any better, If he's a dead beat mooch and is getting away with it, why would he make it any harder on himself and make it easier on you,, seriously think about that!!!!

1. who's house is it?

2. Who's son is living in your house?

3.Um, sorry S.O.B. will not kick my dog

4.Doesn't pay bills in YOUR house

hum.... do i need to keep going.

get rid of the problem now, even if it cost you your girlfriend. you can always get a new one

[200x Basket]

start charging him rent. $100 per week plus $25 for the utilities. talk to your GF about it. Put the $$$ in a pool and rent him a place of his own once the pool is big enough. you look like the good guy and you get rid of the pest!!!

or bang his mother on the couch and let him catch you!!!

[longbedGTs]

Hmmm, 'weed' said everything I was going to say.
When people find a weak spot in others(or anything for that matter), they will do everything in their power to exploit it!
Get rid of the problem, then fix the damage it has caused.


...and rent him a place of his own once the pool is big enough.

Youre a nicer guy than I am.

[Howdy]

Been there done that. We let my sister move in with us for 4-5 months. We only had her help with food and minimal utilities. We were being nice and trying to help her get on her feet ( she made less than us and was deeply in debt ). I even helped her make up a very workable budget that would allow her to put money in savings and also get her out of debt within 2-3 years. Once she got her bills paid we were going to sell her a house we had ( we had a investment house ). The budget worked for 3 weeks or so. I even tried to get her to maintain it after she started ignoring it. It was one excuse after another. Finally my wife had enough ( and my wife is VERY good friends with my sister ). Karla ( my wife ) told me to do something or else. I told her we would do it together ( we are a team ). So we explained to sis that we couldn't take it any more and that she needed to find another place to stay. Yea, it was a hard thing to do, but some times the hardest things to do, are for the best in the long run. She ended up getting a apartment and even deeper financial woes. That was 6-7 years ago. Today she is married and they bought a house right across the steet from us. Yea, there was some hurt feelings back then, but after she realized just how much of a strain it was on Karla and me she came around. Yea, she is deeply in debt again ( buying a house that they can barely afford ), but she knows if she has problems we are here to help. Maybe not financially, but I know I have saved her a bundle on mechanic, babysitting, and such cost. She also helps us out babysitting, house watching, ect.


In your case you need to privately sit down with your GF and talk about things. Ask her how she feels about the current arraingements ( sp? ). Ask her if this or that bothers her. Tell her you can't handle this or that. Come to a agreement on how to handle the situation. Bottom line is this, You need to work together as a team now to get things better. If you don't work as a team your future isn't going to get better.

Just remember God doesn't give us challenges that we can't over come. ;)
Howdy

[xd 200x]

Tell him to get out If that does not do the trick while he is at work pitch his *Edited**Edited**Edited**Edited* out into the yard.

[ATC-Eric]

Give him the boot. Weed and Howdy have given great points. You need to get this guy out.

Anyone misstreats my dog will feel the raith of my foot up their arse!!!!!!!!!!!!

Makes my blood boil just thinkin about it

[darrel632]

Pack his belongings into matching green or orange garbage bags drop it off at his work site, call him and tell em where his stuff is and thank him profusely for his extended visit, ensure he understands he is not welcome as an overnight guest anymore but can visit during daylight hours, anytime. Walk away with your dignity, you don't need this nonsence

[bigredhead]

Wow.. not an easy thing to deal with..

The dog.. - I agree with you.. when i'm in the shower.. the dog is IN the house.. if she barks.. or something happens and i'm in the shower = problems. Kick my dog... i break you legs.. simple.

Other than that.. it's your place.. not his.. it's not easy.. i have dealt with this situation before with many roome-mates, not family. and it was hard enough to do.

I went with " Listen.. i'm not your mother.. and i don't plan to be.. i have simple rules you need to follow or you have to leave , If you were in my shoes you would have every right to your opinion and things would be different.. but ...."

[russell56443]

Thanks for the replys guys,man I would love to pack his s**t up and drop it his job but that would take a couple of days lol,besides the stuff in the house he took over one of my out buildings I wasnt useing and he's got tons of stuff!!
The bad thing is the farm is in me and my GF's names so if something happens to my GF down the road her share would naturally go to her children,thats only right.
I have to figure out a way to get him moved out and on his own without a big bunch of drama so that theirs not resentment later??
My health isnt great and I worry that 5,10 years down the road the family dosnt try to have ME put in a home?
I wouldnt put it past them,there very materialistic and in debt way,way over there heads,our place would sell now for close to 200 grand,just think what it would be worth 10 years down the road,that would pay off alot of their bills lol!!!!
All I can think of is to find him a woman that dosnt have a mind of her own and will follow and blindly do whatever a man says and worship the ground he walks on???
Geeze,that wont be to hard:rolleyes:

[Howdy]

You could do up a will and set it up ( some how ) to where that if you are forced into a home ( with out just reason ) that your estate gets sold, and the proceeds go into a trust fund that isn't accessable for 10 years. This should help in making them want you to be at the farm longer. lol Some might think this is being mean, but I have heard too many stories of how family has manipulated parents into signing away everything.
Howdy

[russell56443]

Hey Howdy,thats a great idea!!!
I owned my own house in florida and I sold it,payed for the move and invested the rest into the farm.
Were 50/50m on ownership ect.. and I think I should be able to stay here until I die no matter my health and my GF agrees!!
Im on aid that pays for someone to come in and help out ect.. so I dont see why I couldnt be here indefiently?
Im going to look up how to do a will and see what I can find out?
Then I have to figure out how to word the whole thing on paper????LOL

[200x Basket]

talk to a lawer about the will