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    The icy hand of cancer touches us all in some way or another

    So, my best friend, my younger brother is diagnosed today with stage 3 colon cancer. He is a 14 year veteran and still currently serving in the Air Force, 32 years old with a wife and 2 boys of 9 and 7.

    This news has rocked us all and nobody even remotely expected it, even the doctors.

    Our family has been through alot since 2006. In oct of 06 our Dad at 52 years old had emergency 4-way bypass surgery. (never smoked once in his life). The following spring he gets prostate cancer and beats that, thank God. Then several months after that, Dad is diagnosed with an incurable lung disease and has to have a transplant.

    Fast forward to June of 2010, my family loses a beloved grandfather unexpectedly. But things swing back to good, and just before Thanksgiving that same year, my Dad gets a lung transplant, and not a minute too soon as his condition had deteriorated quite a bit at that point.

    Now things had been going well, Dad is recovered to the point you would hardly know all he had been through in the last few years.

    It seems our family has finally proven ourselves.

    On Halloween day, my brother goes in to have his gall bladder removed due to gall stones. Things seem good the first couple days until his symptoms return. A week in the hospital of trying to get a supposed blockage to pass, they open him up for exploratory surgery to find and remedy the blockage.

    Then it happens, the surgeons find a large tumor in his colon and remove it along with 2 or 3 lymph nodes. Since that day, it seems like a bad dream. We had been holding on to hope that the pathology would reveal a benign tumor. Today, we get the news that it in fact was malignant. I still feel like this is a bad dream. I cannot believe I am looking at my little brother dealing with a problem he doesn't deserve, much less his wife and kids.

    I have wished to trade places with my father at many points along his oh so bumpy roads these last few years. But never has that feeling been so strong as when I see my little brother laying in that bed, still himself coming to grips with the fact that the C-word has laid it's icy hand on him and his family. If I could trade places with him right now, I would happily do it. Even though he would be mad at me if I told him that.

    My brother is a member here, but I don't think he has ever posted. I hope he doesn't see this, and frankly I'm not sure why I am posting this. I just feel the need to put this down in words to let it out I guess. I know none of this concerns you all personally, but I know many of you have suffered due to this aweful, soulless thing that is cancer. I guess it helps to get it out...

    I find myself sometimes trying to get my mind off it by losing myself in the day to day routines of life. But in a way, that seems selfish to me...

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    Quote Originally Posted by RIDE-RED 250r View Post
    I know none of this concerns you all personally,
    Quite the contrary, I care and I am not happy to hear this AT ALL. I am sure there are others here that care.

    My thoughts and prayers go out to your family, I want to hear that your brother will be riding a trike come spring time.

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    Holy crap Joe, sorry to hear about all this. My prayers and best wishes to your brother and your family. Don't apologize for the post. We all deal in different ways. I too have found out the past year how precious life can be. There are many members here that are in your corner and wish you nothing but the best. If you wanna chat sometime about it send me a PM.
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    I am very sorry about your brother. My dad had a tumor removed from his stomach a few years ago from pancretitus. Doctor said it was the size of a medium pizza!! I hope for the best for your brother and your family.
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    I am so sorry to hear this Joe. You have a great,strong family. Lean on each other and bull through this . My prayers are with you and yours. Burying yourself in work is perfectly natural. Take care of yourself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Clean View Post
    Quite the contrary, I care and I am not happy to hear this AT ALL. I am sure there are others here that care.

    My thoughts and prayers go out to your family, I want to hear that your brother will be riding a trike come spring time.
    I made a poor choice of words there and did not mean to come across that way... I think what I meant was that it didn't involve you guys personally.

    I very much appreciate the kind words from you all and appreciate your allowing me to vent a bit.

    The good news we got is that the experts feel it is pretty treatable. I am hanging on to that for dear life! But it is proving difficult to remain optimistic all the time.

    Both of my brothers really are my best friends, and I just can't stand the thought of the worst case scenario.....Been having trouble sleeping well since we got the initial news on sunday.
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    I'm so sorry to hear this. I can't even remember all the names of those I know who have had, or do have cancer, but it's taken my best friend's Dad, my cousin, an aunt, yet another aun't has had it, my Mom just finished treatment a few months ago (looking real good for her) and now a young lady in our office has been told she's all be doomed.

    I guess it's just part of modern life, so try to enjoy your time with everyone you care for and leave the rest in the hands of God and the doctors. Peace Bro.

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    Man that's rough news. My mom is currently battling 6 types of cancer, has very aggressive chemo, had 28 surgeries (29 is this Friday) and still manages to be a mom and go to work everyday. No idea how she does it.

    All you can do is pray man. I know the feeling, it's not fun. I hope it works out for the better. Just goes to show how vulnerable we all really are.

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    Sorry to hear of your troubles RIDE-RED. You and your family are in our prayers!

    Definitely try and stay positive. I know that sounds tough to do... especially with all the trouble you and your family have seen in the past years. You should talk about it… it definitely helps with trying to cope when a loved one is ill. As for you, it is not selfish to try and get your mind off of it. As a matter of fact it’s good to clear your head of the problems going on in your life. Mentally and physically it takes a toll on you walking around every day with that numb feeling. Cancer is a B****, no doubt about it! Take care Brother.

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    So sorry you have go through all this!

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    Sorry to hear about your brother. Try to stay positive and I think venting to friends including this site is a good thing. Both of my wife 's parents have survived cancer. My Dad passed away 9 years ago with lung cancer. He fought it hard for 2 years and in those two short years we did so much living. 2 years after my Dad passed my best friend passed away from a stroke, he was 40 years old. Right now my Mother has just finished up chemo and seems to be doing good. But this summer she was so sick and then my wife ended up in the hospital for a month with a infection. I am telling you all this because you said you are not sleeping and some of the things you are saying sound very familiar. This summer I finally crashed. Was not sleeping and trying to help my Mom and Wife. People would ask how I was doing and I would always say good. Well I wasn't. I guess the stress got the best of me. Going to work and even doing things I loved seemed too much. So I went to the doctor and was told to take 5 weeks off. The guys at work said it was about time. In that 5 weeks I ended talking to a lot to different family members and friends. It sure helped! So again talk to friends and if the poor sleep continues go see a doc. Best wishes to you and your family.

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    Thanks for the thoughts, prayers and kind words guys. I really do consider you a sort of extended family here.

    Mickey: I'm sorry to hear of your situation in particular. I cannot imagine how much more difficult it is coping with problems like this in your set of circumstances. Prayers for you and your family as well...
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    Well, Josh was discharged from the hospital yesterday after being there for 12 days. He is in very good spirits, has a "screw you cancer" attitude, and is extremely happy to be home. We all went to his house for a sort of welcome home visit. A bunch of us brought a mess of ice cream as he is slowly working back into a normal diet. There has to be about 8 half gallon boxes of ice cream in his freezer right now, LOL! I went straight to his house when I got home fro work yesterday, hence the reason I never got on here last night.

    I went out deer hunting this morning and am feeling better than I have been. But I still can't help but worry about little brother and doing anything I can to help him and his family through this....
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