Originally Posted by
El Camexican
I like to call this “Runner-up Syndrome” only because it sounds more politically correct that “Sloppy Seconds Syndrome” That said I have no idea what allows this phenomenon to occur, but I see it everywhere in nature and have been personally touched by it to varying degrees.
Let’s start with the personally positive side of this occurrence. You know, the kind where some hottie at a party is with a guy that’s had a few too many and doesn’t notice when she follows you into the john and blows you without so much as asking your name and then walks back to her drunken date and French kisses him where he sits on the couch waiting for her to bring him another beer. After posting and re-reading this I decided to count off on my fingers how many times I've been propositioned by girls that were in relationships and were less than 50 feet from the guy that brought them to an event and I've run out of fingers. Of course all this dates back 30 years when I had hair and an identifiable waist, but my point isn't that I was some sort of stud muffin (I wasn't) it's that a lot of chicks are on the prowl even when they are telling some poor SOB he's their main squeeze.
Myself, I have a strict policy about these things and would never allow it to happen if the guy was a friend, acquaintance, or even a friend of a friend. Although a stiff Richard has no conscience, I was NEVER the instigator and always turned down anything that might get complicated. The result of that was usually that said hottie would be pissed off with me and even threaten to tell her BF I’d put the moves on her. This would piss me off big time, especially when I would get a wedding invitation a year later asking me to join the couple in sharing their wedded bliss. A subsection of my personal policy was to never rat out the chick. To this day I feel it serves no purpose and I’ve gone so far as to let my own brother marry a woman of this caliber and find out the truth about her the hard way.
So why would I never divulge to my fellow man the naughty behavior of his woman? Simply because of the words of a wise man who once replied to my pleas for advice regarding affairs of the heart by telling me “It doesn’t matter what I think you should do, it only matters what you think you should do”. Truer words were never spoken as the few friends that tried to warn me about the girl I was second in line for were quickly labeled as jealous liars by her and when I later realized the truth I couldn’t look them in the eye. The cross we bear when we let our emotions overpower our good sense is one that must be carried alone and only after it is laid down can beers and tears be spilt with our brothers.
Ok, so I’ve admitted to being the recipient of tingly crotch benefits as well as the victim of them (Really hoping the latter was the lesser, but there’s no way to know) but what causes this? It can’t all be because the male isn’t playing the alpha role, can it? I’ve seen some pretty alpha male types taste someone else’s seed and I’m not just talking about once at a party, I mean repetitive encounters with guys I would deem to be lesser in every way in comparison to the guys they were cheating on. When your old lady gets the nickname "Sperm Bank" it's time to think about breaking up.
Seriously, what kind of chick sneaks over to some unemployed bums rental house to smoke his pipe when her hard working kindhearted husband is out earning for the family?
This isn’t unique to humans. The female alley cat in heat behind your house waits patiently for the tom cats to tear each other’s eyes out in order to get some puss… what do they call it anyway? and what do dogs a call it??? Anyway, after the bleeding victor plants his seed and wanders off to lick his wounds the runner ups all take a turn on her. So what was the point of the scrap? Couldn’t they just draw straws, or make a line? This behavior is prevalent in many species and tells me that males are stupid for letting it happen.
In humans this seems to change with age. In my experience a 20 year old woman is far more likely to mess around on her mate than one that is 40. As a friend once said “At 20 they don’t know the value of a stiff d*ck, but at 40 they worship them”. As far as the 30’s my experience is that they are most dangerous at that age. By then there are less of them willing to step out on their mates making them a more valuable commodity for the males that would receive them. They’ve also figured out how not to get caught and their social circles and daily routines with work and such create more opportunities to mess around. My advice to anyone with a girlfriend or wife over the age of 30 who wishes to keep them at home and faithful would be well advised to get them pregnant at some point, but that’s just my $0.02 and I’m in no way saying that they are all the same.
As little as I’ve commented on this thread I have been following it as much as possible and I’m of the impression that controlling the behavior of a woman is as much about keeping her worried about her status in your love life as it is about asserting yourself as a man. If I’m even partially right about this, it would scare me to be a guy that manipulated his life partner in order to change her natural tendencies when the day came that I was bedridden, or somehow left destitute.
An example would be this Billy Bush guy that was on the grab her by the kitty tape with Dirty Don. As soon as he lost his high paying job his wife left him. This was a guy that could play the alpha male role and if you look at the two of them she’s the one that didn’t marry for looks. No one is going to tell me she left him for laughing at that comment, so at the end of the day the smoking hot woman he used his alpha male charms to win over left him a few days after his economic fortunes turned.
Is this what we’re trying to obtain? Do we really want to control our women by means of charms which could one day be gone? Do I have a point to make? Probably not, women drive us nuts, yet we’re drawn to them as a moth is to flame, often with the same results.
Carry on.
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