Advice, i need help from you mature 3wws

[Macs]

thanks i appreciate the advice and support

as far as fights go, we have only had a few, but they kinda separated us for a couple weeks. which i think is healthy because it lets us cool down and rethink things

yeaa im lucky because its due to motor sports that i met her, so now i have a riding buddy for life (hopefully )

I thought i had a riding buddy for life too. she use to race motocross, had a trike. When we were 18 we both bought street bikes. then we had kids and she decides she doesnt like them anymore. Sold all of her bikes, talked me into selling mine and gripes everytime i pull out any of my toys........... what chat room did you meet her in, i might need to check that out!!!!

[scooterroo]

well this thread is almost a year in the making. glad to see your still "involved" with this girl. all i am going to say to you, is your young. your both young. you can both go ahead and make these plans, and prepare for a future and all, but the best bit of advice i can think of to tell yahs is take it slow when you two are finally together in the real world. no need to go rushing into things. marriage? ugh, i wouldnt even think about the word marriage yet at your age. way to young yet man. may sound nice and all, but once you two are together together, you just might find out things are totally different then what you "thought" they were going to be like. again, take it slow. wait till she gets here on the east coast first. dont get me wrong im not saying dont follow your heart, you can go ahead and get a place together and all, see how things work for the two of you when your actually physically together, and you get to actually "know" each other. give yourselves a few years before you even go talking about marriage. trust me. your way young yet.

but in the event that you two do make it, you two follow thru with your plans and all, you best be inviting us to your wedding. sh!t im only up here in saratoga man, little over 2 hours from yah.

[honda_atc200es]

i met her in the thumpertalk chatroom

i hear where your coming from as far as the rushing into it goes, im sure plans will change when she gets hear, i just gotta plan it one step at a time.

and definitely if there ever is a wedding anyone from 3ww can come, there are some great people on this forum.

[longbedGTs]

It sounds like youve got your mind made up, so Id say go for whatever you think is right. As was said, follow your heart. That said, I will suggest to be careful and keep in mind that people/things change. Maybe you will prove everyone wrong and have a relationship for years to come. Then again, maybe the 'newness' will wear off and one or the other will lose interest and part ways. People are unpredictable at best, so expect the unexpected.

I did the chatroom thing many years back and met some cool chicks, but it never got farther than phone calls.
Good luck!

[hancadam]

I say go for it. It does work out sometimes, and its worth a shot. Me and my wife meet when we where both 18. We dated for 3 months, been married for 7 years now. We have a 2 year old and one on the way. I am not going to lie, we struggled through some of it financially. Especially while we where in school. We paid for each others tuition. She worked 3 jobs at one time while I was in school. As long as you both have the same mind set and goals, you will be ok.

[firehart]

My wife and I met 30 years ago when we were both 22. She had been married before but I had not. It was a fast courtship with our daughter coming very fast. We dated for two weeks before we moved in together. Lived together for two months before we got married. Nine months and three days later our daughter was born. Here's the advice my dad gave me, for what is worth. When you get the right one, nothing's better. When you get the wrong one, nothings' worse.

[honda_atc200es]

as far as finances go, i told her that things will be tough, especially since shes used to being rich. i figure since she is graduating next year (she is accelerated and home schooled) and that i have 2 more years left, that she would work 40 hours a week, and if she gets 10 an hour thats about 400 a week, 1600 a month , after taxes probably more like 1200 a month. being that im in school i am only allowed 20 hours a week, so thats 800 a month from me, so a little less than 2 grand a month, but thats only for the time being while im in school. she would be living by herself, but she will be literally next door to me, apartment is 950 a month utilities included, food and gas, and the other things have been roughly factored in so as long as nothing unnecessary is bought during that year there shouldnt be much headache.

also as a cushion, her dad bought her a brand new ford f-250(trust me hes not as good of a person as he seems, he did it to prove that she could never afford the truck by herself) , she said since my truck means alot to me, and since my truck is worth less. she will sell her truck when she fly's out, that's a good 20 grand right there, perfect in case we run into trouble. for college, im taking a year off after high school (road trip with my buds cross country) then i plan on taking a loan to go to wyotech (if i dont have enough in my college fund and from scholarships) and im going to be an aviation tech, i can work locally at Stewart international after i graduate while she goes to school for photography (hopefully she will change her mind, because i dont think that pays well)

then after that we havent fully decided, i would like to get a house nice and secluded somewhere. she wants to live in italy and travel to help children in need every 6 months. there is alot to work out, and what i said really is best case senario. but it makes some sense of what might happen, i still have 8 months to really nail down a living plan for her. and theres a lot i left out here for my hands are cramped

p.s. to make things even more difficult, she wants kids right away....

[Tri-Z 250]

Seriously, I am ALL for helping out. Call child protective services in her area and get them involved. Save some of your online convo's for the authorities and after that if you want to stay in contact with her to someday meet then by all means do so.

Best of luck.

This my friend is sound advise...I've been to Cali and know from experance what your feeling in the wanna help emotion. Have her contact social services, and from there you the Socialworker, AND your parents can all help to better the situation. Bro your 15 and you have time on your side to make plenty of mistakes with woman. You may have every intention to try your best but your in no position to support such a problem, leave it to the experts. Please by all means stay in contact and try to advise her to get local help...I'd like to be positive about this and give you the benifit of doubt and say you could be solemates. The real truth is that she's way across the country and you have girls in your area needing friendships too....They may come from solid homes with great parents and within walking distance. GOOD LUCK

[honda_atc200es]

as far as the home situation for her, its rough, but ive found i help her the most by being there for her. she has been alot happier since we met. i hate her mother with a passion, ive even cursed her out once (i sent tabbi a phone and she took it away and mailed it back to me) its because of that, that im not supposed to talk to tabbi anymore, but of course i still do. i broke up with tabbi once and we were apart for a month, i kinda dated a girl but i broke it off because it just wasnt the same, i compared her to tabbi and i just didnt have feelings for her. so i started talking to tabbi again (we got back together on the 12th)

[DeePa]

hey buddy, good luck with your plans, and be ready for them to go down the shitter QUICK...it can happen at any time...

you have your life way too planned out for being 18

not to mention, home school chicks are F'd up...all home school kids are...dont know how to socialize at all, so good luck with that.

hope you the best buy you should really take it slow and let life happen. Its great to have goals, but you cant plan your life like that


hey i thought you were 18, not 24 like in your profile...

if you are 24, youre still planned out really far ahead, but its a little more doable. good luck


OH and easy with the kids. Life with the chick first and see whats up. Child support will kick your ass

[Ryan.]

not to mention, home school chicks are F'd up...all home school kids are...dont know how to socialize at all, so good luck with that.

everyone's different thou

[honda_atc200es]

actually im 16 i accidentally put the year of my trike instead of the year of my birth. and tabbi has been to a private school before, and shes a very social person, if she wasnt, i never would have met her. were both very mature for our age. im not really planning everything yet, just spewing some randomness. alot changes in a couple years. but one thing i do need to plan is her apartment. also as far as us fighting, me and her have been in a couple fights, sworn we would never speak again. but every single time one of us makes contact with the other and we work it out. most of the fights have been my fault i admit. i tend to be jealous, controlling and quick to temper, but ive been working on it

[scooterroo]

whoooaaaaa. kids? now you need to step back and think about this. it's a tough enough world out there already. trying to make it on your own is tough now a days. throw a child into the mix could be the nail in the coffin so to speak. your young, no need to go rushing into all that so quickly. first you need to see if you two are even going to be compatible in the real world. the internet is a good place for people to live out their fantasies and all the chatting in the world does not mean you know someone as well as you may think.

secondly, if this girl is rich like you say, she is going to have a "lifestyle and standard of living" she is used to. be prepared to work your *Edited**Edited**Edited**Edited**Edited* off just to support her and her "lifestyle". wether she is working or not. that right there is enough to make her miserable and put a wrinkle in your plans.

you say she is going to have to work 40 hours a week, but yet she is also going to be going to college too. suny new paltz i take it? so them two things right there are going to occupy most of her time and energy.

you can go and make all the plans you want, thinking that rent will cost this much, food and gas this much. but there is alot more to life and living then rent, food, and gas. you have insurance payments, vehicle maintenance, credit card bills if you have them, and on and on. throw a kid in the mix i hope you have great health insurance, but also diapers, food for the kid, clothing, etc...

it may all look good on paper, but it doesnt mean its all going to unfold the way you "think" it is going to unfold. and most of the time it doesnt go the way you plan it.

take things slow, let her do her schooling, you do your schooling, then work on you two. your young and both have your entire lifes ahead of you. dont go jumping into the fire so quickly. if you two are actually in love, then it will be there when your ready and have less obsticles in your way, and are financially set.

so how old are you actually? 24? 18? 15? how old is she?

[honda_atc200es]

im 16, turned 16 on july 4th really i dont expect to have a kid, that was what she wants, im trying to talk her out of it. she wont be going to college till im out of technical school and have a secure job. if i get a job a stewart i will be making about 40 an hour. like i mentioned before, i know things will be tight, but i will have a 20,000 dollar cushion incase there are unforseen costs. i have worked out things in more detail, but to explain that in writing would take for ever hehe

p.s. shes 15, turning 16 on the 1st on august

[Tri-Z 250]

I think it's more pratical to put a Supercharger on you 6cylinder 10yr old truck. Trust me you'll spend less and enjoy it more...Hate her mother? Pretty strong words for your future Mother-n-law. I don't think you understand what a one sided emotional position your in. Sorry kid but most of us in life learn through failure and my friend you are certianly on your way. You can still be positive after you jump off a cliff you know....because the end is near. OUT