Advice, i need help from you mature 3wws

[Banage]

she is 15 and pushing for a kid? Oh brother, you are in for a long rocky road ahead. Just remember, everything you do will change your life. you can get a job making $3/hour, or $125/hour that does not mean you will wake up tomorrow with it. It could burn down, have lay-offs. What do you think of kids? are you willing to put your life on hold for 18 years? think of what little freedom you have now, and cut it by 89%. you cant just say hey im going riding, take OUR kid that you have been with all day when I was working. She will tell you where to shove your ride. Don't get my wrong, my 2 kids are the best part of my life, but, too early, is too early, is too early. I have seen people who were together for 3 monthe get married, and last. I have seen people together for 27 years, and fold. Nothing can tell you whats the right decision. Only the two of you will be the judge of that. And if you two make it, and if you two have a kid, what will your/her elders say? will they kick yous out of the houses, say find a place to live? Or welcome your child with open arms? And what if you split up? What will that child face? Seeing dad every other weekend? In Minnesota, unmarried couples, mom has 100% custody untill dad fights in court for it. Think of the child. If she is not willing to wait for a child untill you are ready, and says she will find someone who is ready, thats not love brother.

[Banage]

I think it's more pratical to put a Supercharger on you 6cylinder 10yr old truck. Trust me you'll spend less and enjoy it more...Hate her mother? Pretty strong words for your future Mother-n-law. I don't think you understand what a one sided emotional position your in. Sorry kid but most of us in life learn through failure and my friend you are certianly on your way. You can still be positive after you jump off a cliff you know....because the end is near. OUT

I have no idea what all that was about........... But the part I know is the part 100% of guys in a relationship knows, NO GUY LIKES THE MONSTER IN LAW... I mean mother in law. Hate her all you want, but its a part of relationship you have no choice but to deal with. In one ear, out the other, dont let her bother you.

[honda_atc200es]

the mom i wont have to worry about, she will refuse to talk to me , and she isnt invited to the wedding as far as a kid goes, i was actually all for it, but reading some of the comments i realize maybe it isnt the best idea. tabbi would be ok with it if i brought it up. but she was really excited.., one of these days soon ill have a talk with her about it, but for now shes really happy, and where she lives that doesn't happen often. i kno i have a lot to learn, but im really set on staying with tabbi, unless the next 2 years say otherwise

[Aka_am]

....hmm. All i know is I'm not ready for marriage or kids, I'm 21. I'm going to college, and I need to devote my time to that. I know mentally I could handle both, but finaicially, no way

I couldn't see giving up riding for a reason like that either.

[DeePa]

heres the deal...

go for it, take it slow, no little *Edited**Edited**Edited**Edited**Edited**Edited**E dited*, wrap it up, and see what happens

[hublake]

After reading this thread again, I still can't believe that you are talking about all these things with someone you have never met. At your age you have no business talking about marriage, kids etc. You should be thinking about school, college etc. Who are you taking to your senior prom, what about having a good time your last two years in high school, enjoy college life without the hassle of a wife and maybe kids. You have many years left for marriage and kids. Have you discussed any of this with family members or maybe your pastor. Think realistic.

[firehart]

You are too young for all that responibility. Go slow and take care of your education first. If it meant to be, it will find a way.

[yamaha225dr]

Well I guess i'll add my two cents to this thread! I'm not going to try and persuade your decision but try to give you some helpful advice! My fiancee and I met online in a chat room. I know it sounds stupid and to this day it feel's awkward telling people how we met. One night my cousin and I got bored had nothing to do so we decided to get online and were just randomly talking to chicks! Well I met one girl that kinda stood out amongst the other 40-50 that I had already talked too! Well she was currently living in Oregon and I living in Louisiana but she told me that she was going to be moving within 200 miles from where I lived so we made plan's that if we were still good friends in about six months then we could make arrangements to meet one another! I never thought anything serious would come from the friendship but she was pretty "according to her myspace pic's" had lot's of goal's planned out for her future and never once mentioned children or anything negative about her family or friend's! Well a couple months went by and we had already started talking on the phone and she had done moved near me so we planned a weekend that I would drive to meet her and we could go out and see what we thought of each other! Well that weekend rolled around and let me tell you I got scared of what "she" or "he" could have been and my family and friend's were scared to death of what could happen to me! Well me and my old trusty twelve guage and a box of buckshot loaded up with some clothes in my ranger and made the 200 mile trip! Well I get to where she was and too my surprise she looked and sounded just like the person I met online! Still not letting my guard down we went out and had the most fun in those three day's then we ever had in our life! Well I went back home everyone was relieved that I came back in one peice! We talked on the phone a couple more weeks and eventually started dating! I would make that 400 mile round trip every weekend with gas prices at $3.00 a gallon for six months needless to say my old ranger was in need of a break! So I moved her in with me and we have been doing great ever since! We are currently engaged and have our first child on the way! Now our relationship could go to hell in 25 years but right now we couldn't be happier! I know my post was long but I just wanted to show that sometimes the person on the other end of the keyboard is actually being just as honest about who they are as you are but it's a big risk and only you can decide whether or not is worth the risk to take! Now back to the original topic all I can say is you are the only person to decide which is the right decision! Being only 16 years old I would at least treat this girl only as a friend and wait until ya'll have spent some time face to face before you even think about marriage or having kid's! Who know's she may just be the person you'll spend the rest of your life with but you have the rest of your life to get married and have kid's you only live once and I would hate to see your life get ruined at such a young age! Obviously you have your mind made up but at least don't let your guard down and get your feeling's hurt or physically hurt is she turn's out to be the opposite of who you think she really is! Good Luck!

[devilman]

yeah man, take it really really slow. there is nothing worse than a dead beat dad that can't afford to take care of his family. not saying that you will be one, but you both definitely need to have priorities straight. education, job, place of your own to stay, security. i can tell by the thread that you both love each other, but wait. i want my kids to have everything i couldn't. i think every dad feels this way.(well the ones that care) if i would have had them when i was younger, i wouldn't be at where i am today, to give them those things. if she loves you, she will understand. Good luck bro.

[maggiesboy]

steer clear of her, this will get really bad, and you have alot of living to do.

[dickieg89]

i just read all 6 pages of this thread.

wow

at 16 all i wanted was to play stink finger magilacutty with as many chickies as i could talk into it.

[RedRider_AK]

lol 16 years old and already talking about having kids with your girlfriend.

I'm 19 and the mere thought of kids scares me shitless. I'm saving that stuff up till I'm like... 40.

[Dammit!]

I'm 19 and the mere thought of kids scares me shitless.

Funny. I'm 35 and have the same reaction.

[RedRider_AK]

Funny. I'm 35 and have the same reaction.

Bachelors of the world unite. :

[dickieg89]

i didn't think wallkill, ny had the internets yet. jk.

remember, divorces are real expensive. search the site and many people here can tell you all about it.

and if you can go to school for 2-4 years and come out making $40 an hour at some podunk crop dusting airport, sign me up.