Advice, i need help from you mature 3wws

[honda_atc200es]

prepare for 3ww first advice thread. i met this girl online, in a chat room. she was telling me about her life, how her parents beat her and how not much has gone right. i of course was enraged by the fact that her parents beat her (she just got grounded for breaking a bowl) and now i want to help her. the problem, she lives in cali, i live in new york. but we got to know each other and now we talk allot. would it be wise for me and her to save up to buy plane tickets so she can live with me, or is that bad, idk, i guess i cant expect much advice from that. but what should i do, ill try to elaborate more as i talk to her about it more

[RedRider_AK]

How old are you exactly? I seriously doubt that a girl with such extremely strict/etc parents will let her leave the house and live with a total stranger. Also, it could just be someone other than who they say they are, maybe even a DUDE just looking for kind words.

Honestly, I can't tell you what to do. You may have developed feelings or whatnot for this "girl" and may want to be in a relationship with her, but look at all the things you need to make sure of before you send any money.

OH and one more question: Did she suggest the plane tickets thing, or did you?

[oldskool83]

leave it alone dude, its the worst thing to do. the problem with the internet is its somthing to hid behind, tell everything and when you do meet people off it some times its a very strange felling situation. i see nothing but trouble from this...trust me, ive meet lots of people off this thing...nice girls, bad girls...just dont meet girls from the internet. its nice to talk to people, but just leave it at that. i would rather meet people in person if i want to get feeling for them...you can learn a ton in just 1 viewing...cant leanr nothing with words and i hate to say everything she said could be a lie and you could be the sucker who bought it....happens all the time.

[SYKO]

pm sent good buddy........

[smokinwrench]

I bet she is actually a guy working for Perverted Justice getting ready for another DateLine NBC show. Danm I love that show I just can't beleive there are that many sickos out there.

I would say the best thing you can do is let it be or call the local Child Safety Services in her area.

[3 weelin geezer]

I was just thinking that!! You do know they have a house there in LA just for that, no? I bet its that fat old lady that talks with the marks pretending she is like 13. ... Or one of those internet scammers that want you to go somewhere then they hold you up. Seriously, why can't she find a boy closer to home to help her? If its that bad, then the law should have been brought in already. She does go to school, no? She can pick up help there. Sometimes its just a wild kid that thinks its unfair that others get to do this or that but she is not willling to behave like an adult though she wants to be treated like one. If you really want an internet girlfriend, go to cherry blossoms .com and find an asian wife there. If nothing more, you know they want a green card but I hear a lot of them are really nice.

[oldsking86]

Have you made contact like via telephone? SO you can actually hear that it is a girl?

[honda_atc200es]

hahaha, i really apreciate all the help, i fiqured this would be the best idea to come here, im only 15 so i tend make rash decisions.

@redrider, i suggested the plane tickets, the original plabn was to drive out and get her lol

@oldschool, yes we talk on the phone alot, im positive its a girl

well, what ill do is just talk to her, i understand that it would be a bad idea to do anything more, i apreciate the help, thats why im still a memebr here theres always a bunch of memebrs that give good advice

(just incase, in no area of this article is there sarcasim by me, im saying this because alot of misunderstangs can happen because people think im sarcastic)

[oldsking86]

NO prob bro, hopefully something will work out sometime down the road

[kwbyfrmhell]

Lol I am so glad there was no internet when I was 15

[DeePa]

good luck. im glad you talked to her. i was 100 % positive that it was some 40 year old fag on the other end...

Mike

[Dirtcrasher]

Some of US men have a problem.... That problem is wanting to "fix" and "help" girls that have problems. I have problems, we all have problems but some aren't written on the wall. I have also seen normal seeming girls go absolutely psycho down the road and it's a scary sight to say the least...

I have tried to "fix" 2 girls. Both had been abused in the past by there family or there boyfriends and I couldn't see how anyone could hurt such a "great" girl. I got them jobs, helped them out, put them through school, made car payments and sometime down the road they both went to chit.

Women are very deceiving, they call us dogs but the second we don't pay them attention or there given an opportunity they screw ya over. they will take advantage of you. This isn't true for all girls, just most of them, LOL!! Every girl seems to want a bigger and better deal unless they are independant and that can be a problem.

2 questions I ask a new interest are 1) Are you close to your family? 2) Do you take any medication? If question 1 is No, RUN!! If question 2 is Yes, RUN!!



So, with that said, run run run and just buy more trikes and be happy alone before someone sukks the life from you....

[icp4life162005]

A woman scorned... Is someone you should run from.

[scooterroo]

well first off, dont you need to be a certian age to by a plane ticket? secondly driving is out of your league cuz your only 15, so sctratch that idea unless your parents are doing the driving and buying the plane tickets. next bit of advice, dont do it. yeah talking online everything she says and you say may sound great to one another, but in reality it could bea totally different thing. your young, dont go throwing your life away on some girl you met online, there will be plenty of more girls, that live close by for you to get involved with. next, you have to ask yourself why is it that shes always in trouble with her parents? are you going on her words? she could be twisting things around and making it seem like her life is bad, but in reality she is some rich little chick looking for some attention and this is the way she gets it. the internet is a very very very decieving thing when it comes to relationships. im not saying she isnt telling you the truth, im not saying she is, thats just it, you never know cuz you have 3000 miles in between you. the best thing you could do for her is to talk her into going to see someone at her school for some help, or if it is as bad as she says, call child protective services and let them handle it.

[BigGreenMachine]

Seriously, I am ALL for helping out. Call child protective services in her area and get them involved. Save some of your online convo's for the authorities and after that if you want to stay in contact with her to someday meet then by all means do so.

Best of luck.